Sometimes, life throws us curve balls that we don’t expect at all. Many of us are lifelong planners, who have a very clear idea in our minds about what we expect out of our lives, year after year. Of course, it is always good to plan, as it means you are normally one step ahead of yourself (and your competition). But when something scuppers these plans, many people struggle to cope. There are, of course, always certain things that are out of our control, as much as we would like to have a handle on them. So, while planning can often be the best tactic for many of us, you also need to know how to react when things perhaps don’t go the way you envisaged. If the incident that threw you off your path was somewhat traumatic, you might even feel like you need a completely fresh start. Here are a few ways you can kick back some spice into your life when things haven’t gone your way, and how you can stay calm even when the wheels are coming off.
Don’t panic. It’s easier said than done… but panicking will get you nowhere, especially if the incident is out of your control. When you are a creature of habit and routine, that routine being scuppered can easily invoke the fight or flight response—but try and keep level headed. Accept that life comes in ebbs and flows, and try and see the incident as an opportunity rather than something you have to react negatively to.
Try something you’ve always wanted to do. People who love to plan don’t often step very far out of their comfort zone – and often, the routine they create for themselves offers them very little chance of getting out of it at all. If something happens in your life that shakes things up a bit, why not grasp the opportunity with both hands? You might have a childhood hobby you wish you’d never given up which you want to get back into, or perhaps you always fancied trying your hand at an extreme sport. Whatever it is, use your fresh start as a chance to finally do it (not just talk about it).
Move away. Moving away following trauma is always risky business, as you may be doing it for the wrong reasons. But, if you still feel like you need to live somewhere new once the dust has settled, why not consider a move overseas? Experiencing a different culture is a great way to rekindle your passion for life, and with a good Immigration Lawyer by your side, the whole process could be easier than you might think.
Get a new job. It’s pretty common knowledge that far too many people stay in jobs because they are convenient, not because they love the work they do. If you know that deep down your job isn’t providing you with any fulfillment, make it your mission to find something you are passionate about. It could be the perfect new start you need, and you can wake up every day looking forward to going into work.
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