“When I was a kid my mom would send me off to school each day with the words, ‘Remember: be happy! The most important thing today is that you are happy!” —Alaric Hutchinson
Does this happen to you: you get lost in the struggles and challenges of everyday life without even realizing you had days and days without smiling or laughing? If it does, is it hard for you to step out of that state and step back into the happy zone of life? Read these seven reminders, use them when you need to take back your joy for life
Seven reminders for a happy life…
- Wisdom comes from observation, learning, and then practice.
Many people are saying that a life without experiences is empty and shallow. However, most of them forget to mention the importance of observation; that is how you should start whatever you want to achieve.
How could you stay focused on your dreams and goals by using your power to observe? Note how others are dealing with things; how they chose to move forward; how they overcome obstacles; what are the behaviors, attitude, beliefs, and actions that propel you into the happy zone of life.
Observe, learn and then experience!
When you feel down, uninspired or sad, it is the right time for observation because you are sensitive to many things and quite a critic.
When you feel lacking in confidence, it is a good opportunity to learn. And after some observation and learning, put things in practice, experience!
So, do you feel down and unhappy sometimes, use it to your advantage; don’t rush into feeling differently, use it to grow and improve. Remind yourself that rainy days are your perfect opportunities to open the door to new things, give life to new ideas, and wash away ugliness.
- Happiness loves company.
Listen, you are lonely, most times by choice. Is it not? If using a sad moment to grow is a good idea, to choose loneliness is almost never productive in any way. Build up your support system and surround yourself with happy, positive, and accepting people.
Happiness is not only something that you can choose but something that you can learn from others as well.
So, do you have a bad day? Reach out to those who seem happy and content and infect yourself with their joy and well-being. Put your mirror neurons to good use!
- Success is a journey.
Yes, you might be today in a bad mood, but that is a tiny fraction of your success journey and helps you appreciate and desire the good days, happy days.
So, do you wish something different for yourself today? Take a moment of reflection and imagine how boring life would be if everything would go smoothly and perfect each time. Then, regroup and stand up again!
- Be the master of your thoughts.
Part of learning how to be assertive is learning how to do it with yourself as well.
Do you have today those nagging thoughts of self-doubt, talking yourself down, bullying and judging yourself? Get assertive! Say stop and say NO!
Life is not always music and roses, but there are always things to be grateful for, beautiful things, enlightening things all around you. Choose to notice, acknowledge, give importance and meaning to those things.
- Relax! Most people are self-absorbed.
Being too self-conscious and a happy life are almost incompatible; if, for no other reason, being too self-conscious sucks out all the energy from you until there is nothing left there.
Relax! Most people don’t care about your flaws, shortcomings, limitations, and whatever else makes you self-conscious, for the mere fact that people are too busy with their own issues.
You are not the center of their universe, they are. And those who are placing you in the center of their lives, love you enough not to care about your flaws, but about your strengths and whatever attracted them to you in the first place.
Relax! Most people are self-absorbed, and they care about how they feel, what is their image in front of others, how their behaviors are perceived.
- Take your curiosity back.
When was the last time that you felt curious? Take your child-like innocence and naivety back and be curious. Allow yourself to be amazed, amused, and charmed by new things.
- Celebrate who you are.
Whatever you believe right now about yourself, believe this: you have put a lot of effort, hard work, dedication, sweat and tears, laughter and joy into becoming who you are.
Celebrate who you are and know that you are enough as you stand here today. When you feel the need/desire to improve, grow or chance, remind yourself that all those things are your choice and don’t diminish who you are, but use who you are today to become even better tomorrow.
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