We can all feel overwhelmed at times. We can all start to think that life is getting on top of us and there must be more to it. The thing is, that’s true. There is always something more, somewhere to go, some way to change your life for the better; no matter what you’re doing or where you are. There are many different ways to do this, but it will depend on a few different factors such as time and money, and your general situation. But, even if it takes a longer time than you might like, simply aiming toward a different life is a great start.
Find Your Meaning
Everyone will have a different view of life and a different way of looking at the cards they have been dealt. Some simply plow on, blindly following the path they originally set out on, even if it is making them depressed and ill, even if it is making them miserable. Others, the ones who realize that something has to change, are happy to stop and look around, find the path that is signposted to their own life meaning, and follow that instead. It could be anything. If you’ve always wanted to work with animals, but you’re stuck in an office, start a weekend job in an animal sanctuary, at a zoo, or start training to be a vet or nurse. If psychology has always been the thing that makes your heart beat faster, sign up for NLP practitioner training and change where you are heading. There is no shame in realizing it’s time for change.
Make A Dream Board
Daydreaming is something children do all the time. They don’t even think about it; they just conjure up happy scenarios and play with them. They believe anything is possible. Wouldn’t it be nice to go back to believing so ardently in something like that? Well, why not? A dream (or vision) board can help with this. It can be online, on a big canvas, in a notebook, or even a whiteboard. It doesn’t matter. What matters is what you put on it. Whatever you want, whatever your dream is, stick a picture of that on the board. Fill it up completely with anything and everything, no matter how crazy or impossible it seems. Look at it every day and remind yourself what you’re working for, and look forward to your dreams coming true.
When you know what your dreams are and you understand how much you want and need them to come true, it’s time to start working on making that happen. If you don’t put the effort in, your dream board will remain a board full of dreams and pretty pictures, rather than a path to success. Set goals that are easy to achieve and split them into achievable milestones. They should be short-term, med-term, and long-term goals; work on them in the right order so that you can seamlessly move onto the next without the need to keep backtracking [which can become confusing and demoralizing]. Remember always to be flexible when it comes to your goals, sometimes they will change due to circumstances beyond your control, and you’ll need to adapt to keep your dreams on track to becoming a reality.
Something that often causes problems for people are regrets. Regrets will only serve to hold you back and stop you from fulfilling your dreams. You don’t need to be thinking of the mistakes made or opportunities missed of the past—instead think of the future and the exciting things that are coming. You can’t change the past, so it’s best to let it go. Important lessons may have been learned, and that’s good, but going over and over the same things time and again, and falling into the same depression about them is not going to push you forward or change your life for the better. Truth: it will keep you exactly where you are.
Do Scary Things
You have heard of your ‘comfort zone’ and how people either like to stay within theirs or are willing to step outside it and try something new. It’s easy to stay in your comfort zone, doing the same things every day. Even if you don’t like doing those things, and say you want to do something else, when it comes to it, staying in the safety of routine (even if it’s awful and boring) is preferable to trying something different and new. Something scary. After all, what if you fail? What if it goes wrong? Well, what if? If you fail, you haven’t lost anything. If it goes wrong, you can get back to normal easily. At least you tried. But, what if you succeed? What if it goes right? You could change your life for the better simply by trying something new, meeting someone different, taking a chance. If it’s scary, that’s no reason to stop; you may even end up loving it. Take all of the opportunities life gives you.
Being healthy is a fantastic way to change your life for the better. Whether you’re happy in your current circumstances or not, having a healthy mind and body, and being emotionally healthy too, can have a big impact on any decisions we come to make regarding our future. It’s important to think about having a well-balanced diet of good foods in moderation [and some treats now and then] combined with regular exercise. Keep yourself healthy so you can realize all your dreams… this should be enough motivation to help you get to the gym, join a class, or even just cut down on your food portions. Getting fitter and healthier will give you a positive attitude toward everything, and that will boost your goals much further than you might think.
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