He’s Broken Up With You. Now What?

He's Broken Up With You-Chispa Magazine“I want to break up.” If your partner has just uttered the five words that we all dread hearing, you might be at a loss for what to do. Breakups are hard, there is no two ways about it and are even harder if you weren’t expecting it.

It can be hard letting go of someone that you love… If your boyfriend has just broken up with you, the chances are that you are in shock, so don’t do anything just yet. What you need to do is take a few days to think things through and start getting over what has happened. Don’t attempt to run after him or constantly call him in tears, take some time for yourself. It might be horribly hard, but if you stay adult about things, you need to stay away from him for a while.

Once you have had a few days to think, have calmed down, and are feeling more positive, you can then start thinking about your next steps.

Decide what you want to do. Now that you have had some time to think, you can think about what you want to do. If the break up came completely out of the blue, then you might want answers.

Perhaps you still can’t work out what happened and want to know what caused him to break up with you? Maybe you know that although he broke up with you, you want to try and get him back? Or, perhaps you still don’t know what you want, but would like to talk things through with him?

It’s important to think about what you want to do, as this will affect what steps you take next. If you are happy with the breakup, you might just want to move on. If; however, you still haven’t got over it, you may have some questions that need answering.

Talk to him. Before doing anything else, the first thing you need to do is get in touch with him. Send him a text and ask whether he would be open to meeting up for a chat, explain that you just want to talk to him about what happened.

If he agrees to meet you, that’s great, as this will give you a chance to ask him what happened to cause him to break up with you. It’s important that you know this, as this will help you to find closure and move on. Or, if you are considering trying to get him back, this could be crucial information.

Think about your next step. If, after your chat with your ex, you have realized that you weren’t meant to be, the next step is to try to move on. If; however, you now know why he broke up with you and still want him back, the next step is to think about how you can do that.

If you decide that you want to get him back, there are lots of tips that should help you to get your ex-boyfriend back at ExBackExpertise. So make sure to visit this site and check them out… you only have one chance at this, so it’s crucial that you get it right.

Be ready to move on if he says that he doesn’t want you back. You may be pinning all your hopes on your ex-boyfriend wanting you back, but it’s important to be prepared for if things don’t end well. If your ex doesn’t want you back, you need to be prepared to move on with your life.

Yes, you can be sad, but you also need to be prepared to move on and get on with things. It might be hard to hear, but if he doesn’t want to get back together, this is the wake up call to begin working on yourself and your goals… ask yourself, what does God want of you right now? Yes, breakups are always hard, but you will survive. You will be stronger, wiser, and more brave.

Photo by Zach Minor

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Mia Guerra

Mia Guerra

Executive Editor at Chispa Magazine
Executive Editor at Chispa Magazine, Mia Guerra is a writer at heart. Regardless the topic, she loves to investigate, encourage, and ruminate on topics that can make us better people. Aiming to live a Proverbs 31 life, Mia is ecstatic to be following her calling with Chispa. At home she is her husband's sidekick and together they are raising a God-fearing family in Atlanta.

Mia Guerra

Executive Editor at Chispa Magazine, Mia Guerra is a writer at heart. Regardless the topic, she loves to investigate, encourage, and ruminate on topics that can make us better people. Aiming to live a Proverbs 31 life, Mia is ecstatic to be following her calling with Chispa. At home she is her husband's sidekick and together they are raising a God-fearing family in Atlanta.